Hi adelove, I’m writing on behalf of my friend.
My ex and I broke up 2 weeks ago and 3 days ago I found out I am pregnant, I can’t keep the baby so I want to abort it but I’m just contemplating, should I tell my ex about the pregnancy before aborting it or should I just go ahead and do it and forget he ever exists.
I need urgent advice please.
Amy Glee’s Reply…
My dear you have to tell him. He has the right to know and so you have to involve him in the decision making. Who knows? The baby might be a medium by which your rift would be mended.
Besides why have you made up your mind to abort the baby already? Adelove will never encourage abortion so I will advise you to think twice about this issue of abortion again. All the best…
First, let me correct this notion; you should not keep the baby because it is going to mend your rift, that is the worst decision you can make. There was a reason you broke up, and if you have to reconcile and become a couple, it should not be because of the baby. Down the line, there will be so much resentment that it might transfer to the child, when one partner feels like he or she is tied to the relationship because of the child.
That said, I am not one to force my opinion on someone because pregnancy out of wedlock is a dicey issue. You are the one in the situation, and you know how it pinches. But I would advise that you let your boyfriend know about it, it shouldn’t make you go back to the relationship if you don’t want to, but he has a right to know. Regardless of his decision, do what makes you happy, but abortion is never the answer.
Abortion might seem like the easy way out, but trust me, the emotional trauma is not worth it. Co-parenting is something you should consider if you do not want to be in a relationship with your ex boy friend. It might be hard at the beginning, but it gets easier with time, especially if you have a strong support system of friends and family. Years from now, you will be glad you kept the child because you will look at him or her, and your heart will melt in different places. Godspeed dearie, and may you make the right decision.
Dear Adelovelies, drop your suggestions and opinions, a problem shared is half solved.